Come Celebrate Phoebe’s Life With Us


We hope that all of you will come to celebrate Phoebe’s life with us.
The sanctuary is large enough to seat all those who love her.

Tuesday, October 8th, 6:00pm-8:00pm
Green Acres Baptist Church, Tyler at the Chapel Parlor

Celebration of Life Service:
Wednesday October 9th, 10:00am
Green Acres Baptist Church, Tyler

Burial to follow at Lindale City Cemetery

Green Acres Baptist Church
1607 Troup Hwy.
Tyler, TX 75701

For memorial donations in Phoebe’s honor:

Flowers may be sent to:
Caudle-Rutledge Funeral Home
206 W. South Street
Lindale, TX 75771


About Amey Fair

I am Amey Fair, wife to Nathan, and home-educating Mom to Benjamin (9), Averic (7), Deacon (4) and Phoebe (2) . Phoebe was diagnosed with a rare childhood malignant brain cancer called Atypical Teratoid Rabdoid Tumor on January 1, 2012. She had complete resection surgery to remove the tumor on January 4th and began chemotherapy using the Dana Farber protocol on January 26th. A few weeks ago I was sleeping in the chair next to Phoebe's bed in the hospital when I heard her little voice drawing me out of sleep. It was 3 am and it took me a minute to shake off the slumber. "Mommy I'm a mean girl" I thought she said. "No Phoebe, you're a nice girl!" I replied. "No Mommy, I'm a MIRACLE!" Phoebe said. "I'm a MIRACLE, I'm a MIRACLE, I'm a MIRACLE!" she continued on. My tears welled up and spilled over as she made her declaration. Phoebe doesn't know the word "miracle" nor the concept, she's only 2. It was as if the Lord was speaking through her like a prophetic utterance. She fell right back to sleep and I sat there awake, lingering in the magical moment. Less than 40 children are diagnosed with Phoebe's type of cancer in the U.S. each year. This is why it's called "ATYPICAL Teratoid Rabdoid Tumor". So, I have titled this blog in honor of Phoebe, our "Atypical Miracle". We are YWAM'ers, serving in missions through Youth With A Mission since 1998. Before returning to the states 1 year ago, we lived near Guadalajara Mexico for 3 years. It was during our year of agricultural missions training in Waco, TX that Phoebe began exhibiting symptoms from the pressure of the tumor on her brain. Weight loss, lethargy, extreme thirst and vomiting were her symptoms. We have been granted sabbatical during this time to focus on Phoebe's intensive chemotherapy treatment and are renting a home in Dallas near the Children's hospital where Phoebe is being treated. Like the woman who touched the hem of Jesus' robe in Luke chapter 8, we cling to Him, knowing that He is Phoebe's healer. If we can just touch Him, be near Him, bring Phoebe to Him each day, we have hope. He is our hope. Thank you for coming along on this journey with our family. It's therapeutic for me to write it all out, and in so doing, I hope God will use it for His glory.

28 responses »

  1. I am so sorry to hear of little Phoebe’s Homegoing. I cannot begin to imagine what you are going through right now. I have been praying she would be healed—and she was just not the way I had hoped. I pray the Lord will hold you in His loving arms and comfort you. I wish I were close enough to be there for her celebration—but NC is a bit too far. But my thoughts and my heart will be there with you. Liz Hood

  2. I wish we could come, I am crying for you, her family with that big hole in your hearts. I know there are thousands who have been touched by both Phoebe and also all the things written by you and Nathan, and all the pictures. We feel like we are part of your precious family. My husband and I also live in Mexico, and are friends with Mindy and Bill Nichols.
    God must have looked down and thought, “here is a family that will touch thousands of hearts, I know this will be hard for them, but I will let many watch how a family truly loves each other, and how they deal with this very difficult journey, never giving up on me, eventually having the kind of loss few have experienced, while always giving thanks and trusting all I do. From this, lives all over the nation will be changed. It will open other types of ministry, people will know their compassion is real, that this mom did lose a child, she knows what someone else is really going through. May our great God reach down and hold each one in this family and give you supernatural comfort and peace.
    We love you all,
    Mike and Terri Bradbury

  3. My prayers will be for you that day, as they have been from the first time I heard your story, right after Phoebe’s first surgery. I pray Jesus hold you close and give you sweet visions of Phoebe, running through Heaven, laughing and singing and whole. And to know this is not goodbye, but see you later.

  4. Terri’s words and thoughts are perfect for all of us honored to have witnessed your sacred journey, dear Fair family. We are all celebrating your Phoebe, your faith, your love. The Holy Spirit will join us all together this week, near and far, as those who love Phoebe gather to say, thank You Jesus for her!

  5. I have walked with you guys in prayer since the beginning and I so desire to come for the celebration of Phoebe’s life. If there is a way I will find it but it looks like the distance may just be too far. I will be there is spirit and will be praying and worshiping our Father during the celebration service.

    Lifting you all up to our Father for peace and comfort.


  6. If I could make the plane fly faster I would come celebrate your little angel, but we will be in the air flying to Texas, but you all will forever be a part of hearts. We wish your family grace, healing and peace. Love in Christ,  The Ernser Family.


  7. As I look at this picture I see the Father carrying her home….. Blessings with all of you as you remember and celebrate her life. From my own experience I know that you’ll miss her but I know that it is truly a celebration as she is now in a place with no more pain and suffering but forever full of joy….

  8. My heart breaks to hear this news but I know that Phoebe would want all of us to know that she is now in Gods loving care. Her precious sweet face graced my life and made me want to do more for not only her but many other children who have cancer. I would send flowers but I feel a donation will benefit you more. I wish I had a rocket ship so that I could be there with you all but being here in Pittsburgh it would take me too long to get there. I however will be there in spirit. Love, hugs, thoughts and prayers, Leslie Gray and family

  9. Oh my, what a special child Phoebe is! The funeral home will be packed. She touched so many lives. I know how much I grew to love her even though I was never lucky enough to be in her presence. I can just see her with Jesus. I see Him laughing at her running & playing & painting His nails! Oh the joy she brings. Thank you for sharing her with us. I also grew to love you, Amey & Nathan & your sons. I will continue to lift up your family in prayer. Hugs, Elaine

  10. Is there any plan to live stream Phoebe’s service. I have followed this sweet little lamb and her family from the start. My heart is heavy that I can’t be there. Live stream would be great if anyone knows how to make that happen. Sending love and prayers from Calgary Alberta Canada.

  11. Amey and family, I am so sorry to hear that Phoebe lost her battle. It is hard to lose anyone but you know she is in such a better place with no more pain. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Live with those beautiful memories you created. Amey if there is anything any of us can do please let us know. In Gods name. Rita

  12. So sorry for your huge loss. We’ll keep on praying for God’s continued blessing with strength, love and faith.

  13. We will be sending our love and support from Michigan. Your family has been in my thoughts and prayers. We now pray for peace and comfort to you as Phoebe is snuggled in God’s arms. I imagine by now, she’s running the place and infecting everyone with the happiness that beams from her precious smile. Thank you for sharing this journey with us, your faith has done much to improve and strengthen my faith.

  14. I’ve been looking through songs for my sister’s upcoming wedding and came across this one. It’s such a beautiful song, and in listening to it I thought your family might identify with it. It’s called “Sleepy Sea of Indigo and Blue.” I’m glad Phoebe has found peace from her illness although I’m so sorry that she lost her battle. I hope and pray your precious family can find some peace, too.

  15. In looking for songs for my sister’s upcoming wedding I came across this one. It’s so beautiful, and I thought maybe your family could identify with it. I’m so sorry Phoebe lost her battle but am glad she’s at peace now. I hope and pray that your precious family can find some peace, too.

  16. What a remarkable family you are and a true example of grace and faith in a world that challenges that every day. I, along with many, cannot quite find the right words to convey to you the sorrow and grief I feel in my heart. The love parents have for their children is unlike anything else in the world. I once read somewhere that prayers for our loved ones reach Heaven as beams of light, but the prayers from a mother and father for their children shine a little brighter than the rest. I know Heaven was being lit up with all the prayers for Phoebe which still continue. Even though many of us cannot be there in person, we will be celebrating her life by thinking of her, thinking of her remarkable family and taking the lessons we learned and using them in our lives. What a beautiful legacy she is leaving. If only we could all be so lucky to have touched so many lives in our time on earth. I am humbled to have been a small part of the journey and thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing her with the world.

  17. What an amazing gift, you all are so generous to share her with us still. We will be there on Wednesday to celebrate the beautiful life of Miss Phoebe Lucille Fair!!

    Love & Blessings

  18. Thank you Amy for sharing with us the life of your little phoebe. we have all been made the richer for it -am thanking and praising our Lord Jesus for His blessings in your life and your family

  19. I live in Scotland, UK and have been thinking of your family often. I came across your blog through the Jessie Rees Foundation Facebook page and had been checking it daily (sometimes more often) for updates on your beautiful daughter. I’m sure there will be so many people celebrating her life on Wednesday, you will all be in my thoughts.


  20. Dear Amey, Nathan and especially Phoebe:  I have been with you praying through the past 2 years.  I praise God for giving the extra time to spend with your precious princess but know she is looking down on all of you with a smile on her face knowing how much she was loved.  Due to the distance and times I am unable toe attend the Celebration but pleas know that I am there in spirit and that Phoebe will always have a special place in my heart and that at night when I look in the sky, the brightest star I see, I will know that it is Phoebe sending blessing and love to you all.   My prayers continue for you and your family during this time of healing.  Phoebe was truly a gift from God and a Miracle to us all.   God Bless,   Darlene


  21. My thoughts and prayers with parents, siblings, Aunts-Uncles, Jean, Cindy and the entire Phoebe following Christians. May God Bless her in her next life.

    • Hard to put it all into the right words. Always remembered. Always cherished. Appreciate the way you included people who live far away. Loving remembrance from British Columbia, Canada, Vancouver. God bless Phoebe and your family. xo

  22. Crying and praying for you as we look at all the posts of Sweet Phoebe. While we are unable to attend the services we send prayers for supernatural comfort. We hope the memorial is video taped so we can share the celebration of Phoebe’s life. You cannot know how she touched and gave my husband renewed hope , as he suffers from debilating tinnitus. By watching Phoebe and hearing that phrase truly from heaven for us “God is not a meanie, and I am not afraid,” I saw the renewed spirit in him, that if little precious Phoebe could smile and praise God through her great trial- so could he.
    Bless your dear heart for sharing your great trial for God has already changed it into good.

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